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Disabling Head Pains


Nathan was a 13 year old boy that came in with bad pressure headaches. His mom decided to contact me because the headaches have been causing him to miss a lot of school.

Nathan was adjusted by another chiropractor in the past, and the headaches decreased quite a bit, but still come and go. Upon meeting them, it turned out that his mom really loves him, but is extremely controlling, to the point of being militant on some issues.

All of Nathan’s friends have freedom to hang out and play video games, but Nathan isn’t given the same freedom. Because of this, he can’t connect with his friends in the same way they relate to each other even if he tries, and ends up feeling left out.

He’s really quiet, doesn’t say much, and holds it all in. When I asked him if there was anything going on with his mom, he started tearing up, but wouldn’t say anything. His mom was also in the room with us, so I asked her if she would get upset if he expressed himself. She reassured him that she wouldn’t and that she wants him to express his feelings.

I was able to slowly pull things out of Nathan. One issue was that his mom is a health nut. She has him eating all these nutritious foods that appear weird to his friends, and we found out, he hates being teased by all the weird foods he has to eat! He dreads lunchtime and his mom has been forcing him to eat this way for the past three years.

Nathan is here to break his mom’s fantasy about things. He doesn’t want to disappoint his mom, which is something I completely understand because I did the same thing for my mom. I now understood why he was getting his migraines. He doesn’t want to disappoint his mom, yet feels disconnected from his friends, and it’s all making him miserable. He’s in distress.

In Nathan’s mind, he’s thinking of how he can please his mom, but still live his life. He feels stuck, so he gets headaches because he doesn’t know how to deal with it. He’s in a lot of pain because he’s in his head, thinking about it. It’s basically mental congestion.

After he got adjusted on a Saturday, his mom asked him about his true feelings on Sunday, and he started tearing up again, so she asked me to talk to him on Monday at his next adjustment to see if I could find out what was going on with him.

When we talked, Nathan said that he had a headache that morning. It resolved an hour before his appointment, but he missed school again. I can’t imagine how upset his mom was with me, because she brought him so that he would stop missing school, yet he comes for an adjustment, and ends up with a bad headache, and misses school again.

This poor kid is always on the verge of crying because he can’t tell his mom that he feels she’s being unreasonable. Adding to this fact, Nathan perceives he has no friends because of her rigid mindset and her unwillingness to let him connect with them.

I can’t tell her what to do; I just asked her if she sees that her son is trying to connect with his friends but is not able to. He feels like a pariah because he doesn’t know about all the latest things his friends are into. I almost cried with him because I knew exactly what he was going through and could feel his pain.

I can understand his mom’s point of view. Her intent is good and she is just trying to look out for him, but she also needs to understand that she raised her son with good values and morals, and now has to start trusting him. If she makes him repress anything else, his head is going to explode, or he’s going to do something crazy.


If you can relate, or have a story to share, please comment below. Have you experienced hand pain? What did you find it related to? There is a benefit in expressing and exchanging our stories. Let’s hear it!

The Body Speaks Out Series – “Pelvic Foundation”

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Pelvic Foundation Story

Grace, an 80 year old woman, came in with her daughter.  During her physical examination and history, her daughter was surprised to find out her mother had pain in her back for the past five years.  I asked Grace, “What happened five years ago?”

She answered, “Nothing.”

“Are you sure?”


Her daughter asked, “Wasn’t that when Dad wasn’t doing good, and you and he went into that care home?”

Grace thought about it for a moment and said, “Oh, I guess so…”

Changing Foundation

The pelvis area is about foundation and change.  Grace’s entire living situation changed from living in her own house for more than 40 years, to living in a care home, and that was a big change for her.  There were different people, a different environment, a different way of life, plus her husband was not doing well.  Grace was clearly uncomfortable in her new living environment and her pelvis was giving her a blaring signal.

Her pain began to worsen three years ago, which being a coincidence or not, corresponded at the same time with her husband’s passing.  The pain intensified the following morning even without her doing anything that would cause an increase in pain.  

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Shifting Our Identity

The sacrum (lower back) is linked with our foundation.  Lower back pain above the pelvis arises usually when we move or make a shift in our identity.  Physically, it can happen when we pick up something heavy or turning our body in an awkward way.  Mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, it’s when we’re questioning the direction we’re going in, figuring out who we are, or not being able to safely express ourselves.  This creates a conflict in our sense of self and what we should be doing versus what we are doing.

There can be mild to severe pain, and doctors usually prescibe muscle relaxers or anti-inflammatory drugs.  They prescribe this form of treatment to help ease the person from the pain they are experiencing.  Although this may take the pain away initially, but over time if the person can’t feel the pain, they can end up injuring themselves more, creating bigger problems in the future.

Doctors are doing their best and making the best diagnosis based upon the symptoms that are being presented.  They may not always have enough time to really ask what is going on in a person’s life.   Also their scope of practice leads them to prescribing medications to help stop the symptoms, but it doesn’t necessarily address the cause.

Judging Choices

In my life, I will get lower back and pelvic pain if I was judging my choices, where I was in my life, or doubting what I know to be true for me.  The lower back is also linked at times with financial worries, stress, and challenging relationships.  The right side of the lower back is associated with a male figure in a person’s life (husband, brother, father, coworker, etc.), while the left side is associated with a female figure (wife, sister, mother, coworker, etc.).

If you can relate to low back or pelvic pain, or have a story to share about how an experience was linked to pain, please feel free to share it in the comment box below.  There is a benefit to expressing and sharing our stories!