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Manifesting One’s Vision

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What does it take to visualize something in your mind and feel it so strongly that you know in your heart of hearts, that is what you are supposed to create, and then bring it into reality? Many times fear of being rejected, not feeling smart enough, not enough finances, or other excuses, prevent us from moving ahead and manifesting our visions and dreams. You know a vision is inspiring when you feel equal amounts of excitement and fear about “what if” this dream could become a reality. It takes courage to some extent, but anytime you choose to serve the greater good, I have always found leads to fruition.

Why is it so difficult for many, myself included, to leap off the precipice of indecision and venture into the unknown? The fear factor immobilizes and also provides us with the excuse to not take action. So what does it take one to overcome fear? Any person can face fear, but oftentimes when there is no escape route or option, leaping becomes the only solution. Why does it take so long to create a sense of urgency, and how can you manifest your visions without this added incentive?

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Besides fear preventing one from pursuing their dreams, complacency and contentment also stall one from achieving their goals. The reason is that, if life is calm and tranquil, why would we want to upset the apple cart and create unnecessary perceived stress into our lives? This is where many advocate the utilization of motivation to get the job done, however because motivation comes from an external source, the sustainability of the action is usually short lived. One must tune into inspiration and find a deeper internal reason to take action, helping one to overcome any obstacles or pains that come across the path to manifesting their visions.

Being truly aligned in your values and possessing clarity of intent, are the necessary catalysts in helping manifest your visions. Determination and dedication are by-products of these two elements. A clear mission and sense of purpose become the internal drivers providing the fuel and sustenance when one hits the proverbial wall, and encounters obstacles along the way. Being understanding that the journey towards manifesting a vision will have its ups and downs, and twist and turns, will help one navigate through times of hardship and frustration.

This was the case for creating my phone application, “Infinite Body Awareness.” Practice members often ask me questions such as, “What does pain in my right knee represent?” or “Why do I always throw out my back whenever I don’t pay attention to how I lift heavy objects?” Over the past sixteen years, I have worked on thousands of people, who have come to me in search of pain relief or to address different health ailments. I have learned that the secret to discovering what is causing one’s disharmony, lies in the quality of questions that one asks oneself, being brutally honest with the answers, and having a sincere desire to take ownership and responsibility of one’s healing and happiness.

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Besides prompting by practice members to create something to help them understand the underlying mental/emotional components of health ailments, body aches, or bizarre health crises, I too yearned to help people discover a way to take ownership of their bodies and lives. My mission to empower people to trust themselves, and make decisions that help them achieve ease and harmony was the internal driver for me to make this app a reality. It has taken 16 years of practice, going over people’s histories, and helping them to link body pains or ailments to life experiences and perceptions, which has given me the body of information in my app and second book, Infinite Body Awareness. My challenge in creating the app and second book was organizing and attempting to explain the mind-body correlations with health conditions. I wanted to create a resource for people to access as well as give “action steps”, for those who wanted to apply the mind-body connection in healing their maladies.

Over the course of two years, there were moments I was inspired to write and organize my thoughts; there were other moments of non-inspiration. I was frustrated at times after spending a day of writing and organizing, only to reread what I wrote and have only half a page of good content. Along the way, I learned to ask for, and be open to receive help and assistance. Without the assistance of Erin Ushijima Creative Assistance, my app and book would be far from complete. Understanding that we all have timing and rhythms, assisted me in keeping on course as well. However, through the odyssey of getting my app created and released, also had its twists and turns. What I had determined as the release date for my app to be in March and then in April, only to have it finally released in May were all learning lessons.

It taught me patience and also to reassess, then refine my vision, so it was absolutely clear. The old saying, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade,” is so true and valid. Each time an obstacle arose, it forced me to pause, make the necessary changes, and move forward once more. Always remind yourself of the bigger picture and by keeping that in mind, and knowing that your vision can serve the many, will be the lighthouse in the midst of the storm. Believing in yourself, your ability, and your vision to provide service to the many, will help you to manifest your visions.

Self-Acceptance – One of the Keys to Master the Mind-Body Connection

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Self-Acceptance – One of the Keys to Master the Mind-Body Connection

In this life letter, I will be discussing one of the three keys essential to establishing and sustaining an intimate mind-body connection and navigating through life seamlessly. If we are able to incorporate just this one key into practice, it will allow a sense of peace and “ease” in one’s body and life. Self-acceptance is this key. May seem too simple of a concept, but it is very difficult to achieve and maintain, due to our incessant need to compare ourselves to others. Living up to the Jones’s is a common reality that many are plagued with in society – living up to someone else’s lifestyle, financial status, or social acceptance. It’s all based on sacrificing one’s self to a perceived higher authority or the need to feel accepted.

How many times have you found yourself attempting to keep up with the latest fashion, or look in the mirror and wish that you had one less love handle or a single chin versus a double? It doesn’t help that society pushes us to value what’s trending or to have a certain appearance. What does it take for someone to gain self-acceptance? The first step towards self-acceptance is understanding that we have parts of ourselves that we admire and parts that we don’t care for. Instead of focusing on our “likeable” and redeemable qualities, we mull and fuss over the “undesirables” and the parts of ourselves that we want to be different. This judgment amplified by comments made by family members or loved ones oftentimes crafts and molds the way we behave and perceive life. Remember when we don’t accept something about ourselves, how can anyone else do the same and accept us for who we truly are?

Take the initiative to start accepting the parts of yourself that you don’t particularly care for such as your weight, over-bearing personality, need to be right, desire to be heard and seen. Although there are individuals who have no problem walking to the beat of their own drum, there are many others who want to be loved and accepted, and will bend to others’ wills and requests. Remind yourself that it takes time to alter one’s behavior and modify one’s perspective. Be gentler on yourself when you start berating yourself for returning to old patterns of thinking and behaving. Know that life is a process and beginning now to accept yourself will go a long way to enjoying a fulfilling, satisfying life.

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Understand that your inability to accept one or all body parts will slowly lead to physical, mental, and emotional blocks; eventually leading to “dis-ease” and many body dysfunctions amounting to discontent and suffering. That is why self-acceptance is vital to one trusting and establishing a strong mind-body connection. Until the mind and body work together in unison, either the mind will overpower the body until the body takes over in the form of extreme pain, health ailments, or sickness. The time is now to start honoring and accepting your uniqueness. Take baby steps to appreciate your body and how it is an expression of you! Get accustomed to looking in the mirror from time to time, and accept the face looking back at you. Begin to love and accept all of your features and see how your inner beauty is expressed in the outer form. By following these simple steps, it will eventually help you to accept yourself fully, and bring connection to your body and usher more harmony into your life.

If you can relate, or have a story to share, please comment below.  There is a benefit in expressing and exchanging our stories.  Let’s hear it!

The Essence of Be-ing

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The expression of our minds and thoughts will manifest in some form in our bodies. What I have discovered is how powerful our minds are, and yet the body is its true equal or possibly more powerful. The amazing organizing wisdom of our body and its ability to process so many different details and functions all instantaneously. For instance, we do not have to constantly think of making our heart beat and pump blood to the rest of our limbs and organs, nor do we have to consciously focus on our stomach and small/large intestines to break down and digest foods we have eaten to provide us with nutrients for our body’s sustenance. This is where our mental and emotional state can truly affect the overall functioning of our body.

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Have you ever experienced a physical pain that came from feeling emotional anguish or uncertainty? Have you ever experienced tightness or an uncomfortable gripping sensation at the pit of your stomach? Sometimes a perceived slight by a loved one can create a physical pain in some part of our body, or cause our minds to go into a frenzy, attempting to make sense of the situation.

One such charged emotional state that can affect our bodies is the act of blaming and shaming. When we blame, it creates a certain mindset and in blaming another for causing us anguish or pain, we in essence give our power away. The reason being is that we were co-creators in the interaction and shrugged off our responsibility in what took place. Work towards making it a habit to understand why you feel the need to blame another, or blame a situation, for why you felt a certain way, or the way your life is. Reflecting on how a challenging experience is just as much our responsibility as the other party’s, will help to shift one’s mindset leading to a more balanced mental and emotional state. Taking ownership and equal responsibility of the conflict, enables one to take control of the situation and see how our reactionary behavior patterns have influenced our lives and may have been the underlying reason why we have perpetuated certain experiences from past and present conflicts.

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Strive to see the conflict from different perspectives to gain a more global awareness and understanding. Oftentimes feeling helpless engenders one to inflict control on another, and assert oneself, all to avoid feeling helpless. However, this action will oftentimes lead to the building of resentment, that in the long term, erodes any trust or willingness to connect with the other person. It is through taking responsibility of one’s words and actions in our life experiences, which determines the growth and maturation of a solid relationship. So stop with the blaming, and take a look at how you participated in creating either a harmonious connection, or a highly charged and explosive situation, from which one has to back pedal in order to preserve this connection.

Allow your body and conscience to be your guide in helping you navigate through conflicts that arise, either by you being the instigator, or the recipient. By tuning into your body, connecting with your feelings, and paying attention to bodily symptoms that arise, will help to establish a greater confidence in how you handle and deal with current or future conflicts. Become pro-active and start observing how you behave when you are challenged by another person, or perceive to be hurt or shamed. Your friend, loved one, or peer will thank you, as well as you will thank yourself in the long run for taking responsibility and bringing balance to your life!

Old Patterns and Habits

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As one begins to develop a stronger mind-body connection, the next step, besides discovering how one feels and connects with their body, is to become aware of one’s behavior patterns.  Recently I have had to face a lot of my old patterns in how I operate and experience my life.  We all have our own perspectives of how we experience certain instances that will always be seen through our own unique filters.  No two people will ever see or experience a particular event the same.  Everyone’s experience is their own; due to influences of the past.  So how can we stay in the present moment and not fall back into old behavior patterns?

The first step is to become aware and recognize when you are falling back into old patterns of reacting and thoughts.  Sometimes we need others to help us to see when we become unsure and begin reacting to situations.  We all have created different strategies to deal with uncomfortable situations, people, and even ourselves.  I have discovered that one of my old patterns is to avoid uncomfortable situations.  I tend to be a people-pleaser, and will do whatever it takes to make sure everyone around me is happy in my perception.  I will even sacrifice my own happiness to insure that others, especially loved ones, are happy.  What I have come to discover is that you cannot please everyone, even if your intentions are good.  It’s the battle between what I feel is right, and wanting others to be happy in spite of my own happiness.

Before I’ve felt that if I chose my happiness over another, I was being selfish.  Listening to many personal histories over the years, I have discovered that I am not alone in feeling this way.  Many have shared that when they choose themselves first, they feel selfish and guilty about it.  I have come to the realization that until we choose ourselves first, then we can never fully love or give to another.  Loving and putting one’s “self” first, is necessary to truly love others.  Even in the Bible, Mark 12:31 states, “YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.”  By simply loving yourself, you are able to love others.  So begin immediately and choose to love yourself first, which will then allow you to give, serve, and love others.

We develop certain habits or act a certain way, because it serves us.  Good habits such as brushing our teeth, helps us to prevent dental decay and cavities.  But why do we also develop such things as bad habits?  Such considered bad habits are procrastinating, stretching the truth, avoiding confrontations, making excuses, etc.  We all have, from time to time, done those things, but why are some people more prone to acting this way?  Until one can be brutally honest with themselves, and take a look at how a particular behavior is benefiting them, they will keep reenacting the same behavior until they choose that it no longer serves them in a positive way.  Once a person knows their truth, sees how they want to experience their life, and accepts themselves fully and unconditionally, there is an alchemical moment when they can transform a bad habit into a different form.

However, know that it takes time, patience, dedication, and determination to address and eventually change old patterns or habits.  Reason being is that all behaviors were created by you to deal with certain situations in your life.  Change takes time and doesn’t happen overnight.  Learn to be more gentle with yourself, because there are going to be moments when you will go back into your patterns and repeat behaviors.  When you do it’s because you didn’t stay consciously present and allowed yourself to enter autopilot mode, not making a conscious choice with your actions.  Take this moment to choose to be present and take tiny steps towards freeing yourself from those old, crusty habits.

If you can relate, or have a story to share, please comment below.  There is a benefit in expressing and exchanging our stories.  Let’s hear it!

The Impacts of Food

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In this day and age, there is so much discussion about the foods we eat, making sure we have enough nutrition, or the ramifications of eating genetically modified organism (GMO) foods.  Nutrition is definitely important to ensure that we have the right amount of minerals, proteins, sugars, and fibers that our bodies can use.  We are told to have a balanced diet, get adequate amounts of sleep, get enough exercise, and maintain a positive mindset, which will help to ensure a healthy and wellness lifestyle.  If that was the case, why do we still find it difficult to be healthy?

I am not negating the importance of what we put into our bodies, but what also is vitally important is our mental and emotional state of being at the time we are preparing our nutritious foods or when we are eating.  Just think about this for a minute, what if you had healthy, organic, local grown produce but at the time you were preparing the food, you were angry with someone or some life circumstance?  Have you had comments from family members or friends criticizing how your food tastes bland or too salty, or even bitter perhaps?  Reflect and see what was going on at the time you were preparing the meal; were you uninspired or irritated?  Or has the opposite been true, parents or siblings even children expressing how amazing the dinner was and how good they felt after they ate?

Another case in point, have you ever been to your favorite restaurant and on one occasion felt the food was flat or didn’t have the usual “wow” factor?  Often we attribute the mishap to the chef having an “off” night, or that the substitute chef was responsible for the disappointing entree.  Could it possibly be a combination of the chef not being in a happy mood or possibly some form of unrest among the staff and servers as well?  I am asking these questions to spark awareness about how important our state of mind and emotions dictate our appetite and tastes.

This concept is known as the mind-body connection and has been researched for over forty years, linking the mind with physical expressions in the body.  Right now if I mention sucking on a lemon, how many of your lips started to pucker and mouth begin to water?  It’s truly amazing how a picture, a smell, and even a thought can create a physical response of the body. We can either choose to work with our minds and control our mental thoughts and emotions, or we can learn to connect with our bodies and gain another way to be more present in our lives.  The time is now to start connecting with your body if you haven’t done so.  The more in tune you are with your body and its subtle signals, the more you don’t have to be surprised by some health crisis or major health ailment to make you mindful of how the stressors in your life are impacting your physical body and overall well-being.

I want to share a few easy-to-do things that you can do to start connecting your mind with the body, utilizing food consumption as the method.  The next time you sit down for a meal, take this opportunity to observe how you eat.  Do you take little or big bites?  Do you wolf down your food, or do you allow yourself time to savor the flavor and enjoy the food in your mouth?  If you eat fast, do you find yourself rushing through life and many times feel overwhelmed by all the things that you need to get done?  If you are a slow eater, do you find that you tend to take time before coming to decisions, and taking action?  Neither way is right or wrong, but it is a simple expression of how you operate in the world.  Observing your eating habits will slowly illustrate how you experience and deal with life.

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Another example is to look at your cravings for comfort foods.  Have you ever noticed that when you are stressed or worried about something, you tend to reach for chocolate, sweets, or salty chips?  How many times have you started to eat a bag of chips, telling yourself I will just eat a few chips and then 10 minutes later the whole bag is empty?  Then how often do you proceed to mentally flog yourself for eating all the chips and now have to exercise for two hours to offset what you put into your body?

My suggestion is to enjoy your comfort foods when you crave them.  Eventually, the more you give yourself permission to eat these foods, the more you will find that after you start eating your comfort food, you’ll stop sooner.  The only reason you crave comfort foods is an attempt to fill a void or an emotion that can be linked to anxiety, fear, sadness, or lack of love.  When you address this void or charged emotion, is when you will be free of the cravings for comfort foods.

Learning to listen to your body and establishing a clearer communication with your mind-body takes time.  This strategy does not happen over night, but if you stay mindful and work towards this goal, it will serve you and help you navigate through life’s experiences in the long run.

If you can relate, or have a story to share, please comment below.  There is a benefit in expressing and exchanging our stories.  Let’s hear it!

Lifting the Weight Off Your Shoulders

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Glen came in for a consult with some right shoulder pain. He was a bit shaken up when he read about what I did. Glen thought I was New Age, but I explained that I wasn’t, and that I’m here to help people connect with their own healing energy, not that I put energy into people.

After I explained more, he felt a little better, however, he was very aligned with God and Jesus Christ, and believes that God won’t let anything bad happen to him, so he isn’t afraid of anything.

The right shoulder pain happened four times in Glen’s life. The first time was five years ago. He was shaking out a heavy rug and hurt his shoulder. It was very painful, but he did physical therapy for it, and it eventually went away.

It happened again about a year ago. At that time, he went to see his friend’s shiatsu massage therapist who did some alignments and really worked on the muscle making it feel better.

The third time happened a few months later. Glen wanted to see the same shiatsu therapist, but he wasn’t available, so he saw the therapist’s father. This time it didn’t help as much, but it eventually went away again.

A week and a half ago, he was really tired and slept in an awkward position. When he woke up, he had major pain in the shoulder. He was pushing on the spot that the shiatsu therapist worked on, which helped a little, but the pain was still there.

I asked Glen, “Is there anything going on in your life? Do you have any stress?”

Glen said, “No.”

“What was going on five years ago when it first happened?”

“There was something going on that has to do with my brother but I’m not going to tell you what happened.”

“It’s okay, you don’t need to tell me the details. As long as you recognize that there was something going on. What was going on in your life during the time it came back, and the shiatsu therapist worked on it?”

“There was some stuff going on then too.”

He was starting to see the link, and asked, “Are you telling me that there’s stuff going on in our lives that are causing the pain?”

“Yes, and until you bring balance to whatever that incident was with your brother…”

He cut me off, and said, “That incident is done. I forgave him.”

“Really? Why is the same pain coming up again?”

Glen couldn’t answer. I told him, “I’m not here to fix you, I’m here to help you connect with your own body, and you’ll learn strategies to help you address whatever it is that you need to address.”

“Are you saying that you’re willing to do this and lose business?”

“I’m not going to lose business. I’d rather empower people than have them become dependent on me and have them think I’m going to fix them.”

“Okay, let’s try it.”

I learned that the reason Glen was so freaked out about New Age was because of how he was looking down on his sister.

His sister brought her son (Glen’s nephew) to a New Age healer because he had a hole in his throat area. After seeing the healer, the hole closed up and everything seemed great. The sister, her husband, and son moved to Australia, and the hole opened up again. The family panicked because there weren’t any New Age healers to turn to there.

Glen’s sister ended up bringing her son to a medical doctor who says that it was a good thing the hole opened up because there were all kinds of nasty stuff underneath that’s been spreading like a tumor. Miraculously the boy was saved by Western medicine, and this caused Glen to link New Age with evilness.

If you can relate, or have a story to share, please comment below.  Have you experienced hand pain?  What did you find it related to?  There is a benefit in expressing and exchanging our stories.  Let’s hear it!

Bending to Others

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Bridget has been under care for eight weeks had some huge breakthroughs. She’s done a lot of spiritual, mental, and mind-over-matter work. She realized that although her goal was the body-mind-spirit connection, the last thing she wanted to deal with was her body because she didn’t like her body when she was younger. As she got older, her body seemed even uglier in her mind, because she became very gangly and tall, and just felt awkward in her own body.

In the past year and a half, Bridget’s body has been giving her so much trouble that that’s all she was focusing on. She came in to the office with major scoliosis, but as she’s been getting adjusted, she’s been becoming more upright.

Before getting under care, Bridget was never hungry. Now, she has a big appetite, has been craving more nutritious foods, has more energy, and she’s been cleaning. In the past, she would start cleaning, but because of all the pain, she would have to stop before she was done. Now, she can clean without pain and take breaks intentionally.

She’s also become aware when old patterns come up, and realizes when she makes a mistake, she gets very obsessive over it. She starts to question what she could’ve done, to the point that it can wipe out her whole day.

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Bridget was judging how she gets obsessed over making mistakes. She realized when she was younger, she would get scolded if she made a mistake. Her parents would tell her that she can’t do this or can’t do that, and if she did, she would be punished. She carried it with her, her whole life, and it comes out whenever she makes mistakes.

Because she doesn’t want to make mistakes, she always thinks ahead, especially when she was working for two high-powered bosses. We worked on things so she could see how it’s actually been serving her in a positive way, so that she could now embrace it.

She was also judging all the things she did things mentally, emotionally, and spiritually in the past. She was beating herself up, thinking she should’ve started working on her body first. I explained that if she didn’t work on all that other stuff first, when things started coming up with her body, she wouldn’t have the strength and ability to navigate and recognize it. Bridget is in her 60s, and to make a change at that age is very cool.

Everything happens for a reason and is perfect exactly how it is. As soon as Bridget can accept that, a big weight will lift off her.

If you can relate, or have a story to share, please comment below.  Have you experienced hand pain?  What did you find it related to?  There is a benefit in expressing and exchanging our stories.  Let’s hear it!