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Manifesting One’s Vision

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What does it take to visualize something in your mind and feel it so strongly that you know in your heart of hearts, that is what you are supposed to create, and then bring it into reality? Many times fear of being rejected, not feeling smart enough, not enough finances, or other excuses, prevent us from moving ahead and manifesting our visions and dreams. You know a vision is inspiring when you feel equal amounts of excitement and fear about “what if” this dream could become a reality. It takes courage to some extent, but anytime you choose to serve the greater good, I have always found leads to fruition.

Why is it so difficult for many, myself included, to leap off the precipice of indecision and venture into the unknown? The fear factor immobilizes and also provides us with the excuse to not take action. So what does it take one to overcome fear? Any person can face fear, but oftentimes when there is no escape route or option, leaping becomes the only solution. Why does it take so long to create a sense of urgency, and how can you manifest your visions without this added incentive?

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Besides fear preventing one from pursuing their dreams, complacency and contentment also stall one from achieving their goals. The reason is that, if life is calm and tranquil, why would we want to upset the apple cart and create unnecessary perceived stress into our lives? This is where many advocate the utilization of motivation to get the job done, however because motivation comes from an external source, the sustainability of the action is usually short lived. One must tune into inspiration and find a deeper internal reason to take action, helping one to overcome any obstacles or pains that come across the path to manifesting their visions.

Being truly aligned in your values and possessing clarity of intent, are the necessary catalysts in helping manifest your visions. Determination and dedication are by-products of these two elements. A clear mission and sense of purpose become the internal drivers providing the fuel and sustenance when one hits the proverbial wall, and encounters obstacles along the way. Being understanding that the journey towards manifesting a vision will have its ups and downs, and twist and turns, will help one navigate through times of hardship and frustration.

This was the case for creating my phone application, “Infinite Body Awareness.” Practice members often ask me questions such as, “What does pain in my right knee represent?” or “Why do I always throw out my back whenever I don’t pay attention to how I lift heavy objects?” Over the past sixteen years, I have worked on thousands of people, who have come to me in search of pain relief or to address different health ailments. I have learned that the secret to discovering what is causing one’s disharmony, lies in the quality of questions that one asks oneself, being brutally honest with the answers, and having a sincere desire to take ownership and responsibility of one’s healing and happiness.

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Besides prompting by practice members to create something to help them understand the underlying mental/emotional components of health ailments, body aches, or bizarre health crises, I too yearned to help people discover a way to take ownership of their bodies and lives. My mission to empower people to trust themselves, and make decisions that help them achieve ease and harmony was the internal driver for me to make this app a reality. It has taken 16 years of practice, going over people’s histories, and helping them to link body pains or ailments to life experiences and perceptions, which has given me the body of information in my app and second book, Infinite Body Awareness. My challenge in creating the app and second book was organizing and attempting to explain the mind-body correlations with health conditions. I wanted to create a resource for people to access as well as give “action steps”, for those who wanted to apply the mind-body connection in healing their maladies.

Over the course of two years, there were moments I was inspired to write and organize my thoughts; there were other moments of non-inspiration. I was frustrated at times after spending a day of writing and organizing, only to reread what I wrote and have only half a page of good content. Along the way, I learned to ask for, and be open to receive help and assistance. Without the assistance of Erin Ushijima Creative Assistance, my app and book would be far from complete. Understanding that we all have timing and rhythms, assisted me in keeping on course as well. However, through the odyssey of getting my app created and released, also had its twists and turns. What I had determined as the release date for my app to be in March and then in April, only to have it finally released in May were all learning lessons.

It taught me patience and also to reassess, then refine my vision, so it was absolutely clear. The old saying, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade,” is so true and valid. Each time an obstacle arose, it forced me to pause, make the necessary changes, and move forward once more. Always remind yourself of the bigger picture and by keeping that in mind, and knowing that your vision can serve the many, will be the lighthouse in the midst of the storm. Believing in yourself, your ability, and your vision to provide service to the many, will help you to manifest your visions.

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Connection

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Connecting with loved ones, family, friends, and associates are important in this day and age. Many research studies have shown the vital importance of a close-knit community in helping people live longer and more fulfilling lives. Cultivating relationships are essential in establishing this support system. The ability to communicate clearly with others is a valued commodity in order to establish trust and loyalty.

How do we know when we are over-extending ourselves to please another, or have we gotten so habituated that it appears normal for us to behave in this manner, and not even realize that we are over-extending ourselves? Having been a people-pleaser for most of my life, it has taken me a while, with a bit of trial and error, and listening to my body signals, to understand when I am not in alignment with what is true for me. Knowing when a “yes” means “yes” instead of meaning “no”, just to avoid conflict or an uncomfortable situation. What I have discovered is the importance of knowing one’s truth and boundaries, and that it is essential for one to maintain them. In the long run it will serve you and your loved ones as well. The end goal is to achieve true “authenticity” and know one’s self-worth.

Often times we get caught up in the shoulds, ought tos, musts, and all the obligatory “have tos.” Whether it is a family member, close friend, or significant other, why is it so difficult to be true and call a spade a spade? There are many individuals out there who do not toil with this situation, but I have come across numerous individuals who create health ailments due to their inability to speak and live their truth. Self-knowledge when applied appropriately and at the right moment leads to wisdom. Self-knowledge is established over time and through diligence and practice leads to self-acceptance and self-love.

Health ailments are expressions of the body informing one that they are out of balance in their life. Sometimes the body will express pains to get a person to stop and reassess what they are currently doing in their life that need to be addressed and shifted. At other times, when a person is making improvements and transforming their life they may also experience pains or health ailments as well. Right now, you may be thinking, how can this be you? Why would a positive shift in a person’s life create pain or a health ailment? The reason is “change”. It takes time for us to deal with, and assimilate, change in our lives. Over time we become habituated in how we function and deal with certain situations. The moment we begin to shift the way we deal with certain circumstances, or try to shift our mindset and approach, there is a disturbance in the “force.” The “force” is our natural conditioned response to life situations.

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So how do we find a way to keep true to ourselves and yet find a way to build solid interpersonal relationships? The key is in understanding that every relationship is a fifty-fifty contribution from both parties involved. Every interaction is equal by design, but many times people are attempting to establish their view point and be in the “right.”

Take for instance when someone is hurt by what their significant other or family member said to them, and want to maintain that they were hurt by the other person’s words. In their perception, being hurt by the other’s words is true for them, but by the same token, they are responsible for the way they are experiencing and feeling this event. It may be true that the other party could have expressed things differently, but if expressing their truth, and their intent was not to be mean or cruel, then who is right and who is wrong? The answer is that neither are right nor wrong, but both have contributed to the interaction and resulting situation.

One last point is the idea of compromise. How many of us have heard this term and how many of us truly understand its meaning and are able to truly compromise? What I have discovered is that although we attempt to compromise in our different interactions and relationships, many times compromise does not occur, and one party has to give in to the other party’s demands. Often times the one who holds the stronger boundary tends to get their way and the other one has to give in. This lends to silent resentments due to the fact that one gets their way and the other has to concede. Many times this type of interaction is like a seesaw and goes back and forth building up tension over time because each party wants to establish their position in the relationship. True compromise occurs when both parties are able to obtain what they desire.  It may not be completely what they want, but at least both are able to establish a “win-win” result. By knowing one’s boundaries and what one is willing to do and not do, this will help to establish a proper compromise that is harmonious and leads to a balanced relationship.

If you can relate, or have a story to share, please comment below.  There is a benefit in expressing and exchanging our stories.  Let’s hear it!

To Be or Not to Be

To Be or Not To Be… That is the Question

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This famous line is from a soliloquy from William Shakespeare’s play, Hamlet. Hamlet is contemplating choices of life and death due to his life circumstances. Throughout the play, Hamlet is tormented with his mind (mental chatter) and is plagued by too much thought and not taking action until the very end.

How many of you can relate to Hamlet in trying to figure out the best course of action to take in your life? How often do you find yourself with many thoughts running through your mind? Have you noticed that the more you try to think and rationalize what to do, you end up not taking any action at all? Or worse yet make a decision and choice that you later regret? This course of action is commonly known as “analysis paralysis” – thinking too much, getting stuck in our mind, and not knowing what to do.

The way to escape the labyrinth of your mind is to begin asking yourself a very simple question, “What do I want?” This is essential and necessary in order to make clear and decisive choices in how you want to live your life. This life is ours to live, so why not take action now and begin deciding how you want your life to be. If you are currently happy and satisfied with the way your life is, that is wonderful. If you feel deep down inside that you are not living the life you desire, then you can consider two ways to approach this feeling and discover what your truth is.

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The first choice is to take time and reflect on how your current life situation is serving you. There have been several times in my life where I resisted admitting to myself that my life was exactly the way I wanted it. The reason for this discontent was due to comparing my life with a fantasy where nothing was ever going to be challenging and was always nice and peachy. The fallacy in believing that life will always be happy and never sad or disappointing leads you down a road, where you will unfortunately always be searching for something more. We then begin to perceive that we are missing something, when in fact we truly are not. However, what we perceive is and becomes our manifested reality.

The second choice is to take a good, hard look at your life and current situation, and determine if you want to make a change. Whether a job, partner, certain close relationships, or a family obligation that you once enjoyed that is no longer fulfilling you; only you can decide if you need things to change. Change is a normal process of life and the more you can embrace this, acceptance isn’t far away. Sometimes you may have to examine how these past and current relationships have served you, or how you benefit from the way you behave and view life. The choice is yours to make and taking full responsibility for your actions and how you want things to be different is entirely up to you. We technically only have one life to live, so why not choose a life that you are happy and content with?

Just keep in mind that anytime we make a change, there is the universal law of cause and effect. For any action that we take, there will be an equal reaction or response to that action. Be prepared to experience some resistance to your life change, possible friction or misunderstandings that may arise with certain individuals, and even body discomforts due to your change in behavior and habits. Although change is inevitable, we all resist what we don’t know or are unfamiliar with. In those moments of resistance, take a few deep breaths in to bring you back into the present and remind yourself to stay on track with the choice you have made. Continue to trust your intuition and welcome harmony and ease back into your life.

The Essence of Be-ing

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The expression of our minds and thoughts will manifest in some form in our bodies. What I have discovered is how powerful our minds are, and yet the body is its true equal or possibly more powerful. The amazing organizing wisdom of our body and its ability to process so many different details and functions all instantaneously. For instance, we do not have to constantly think of making our heart beat and pump blood to the rest of our limbs and organs, nor do we have to consciously focus on our stomach and small/large intestines to break down and digest foods we have eaten to provide us with nutrients for our body’s sustenance. This is where our mental and emotional state can truly affect the overall functioning of our body.

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Have you ever experienced a physical pain that came from feeling emotional anguish or uncertainty? Have you ever experienced tightness or an uncomfortable gripping sensation at the pit of your stomach? Sometimes a perceived slight by a loved one can create a physical pain in some part of our body, or cause our minds to go into a frenzy, attempting to make sense of the situation.

One such charged emotional state that can affect our bodies is the act of blaming and shaming. When we blame, it creates a certain mindset and in blaming another for causing us anguish or pain, we in essence give our power away. The reason being is that we were co-creators in the interaction and shrugged off our responsibility in what took place. Work towards making it a habit to understand why you feel the need to blame another, or blame a situation, for why you felt a certain way, or the way your life is. Reflecting on how a challenging experience is just as much our responsibility as the other party’s, will help to shift one’s mindset leading to a more balanced mental and emotional state. Taking ownership and equal responsibility of the conflict, enables one to take control of the situation and see how our reactionary behavior patterns have influenced our lives and may have been the underlying reason why we have perpetuated certain experiences from past and present conflicts.

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Strive to see the conflict from different perspectives to gain a more global awareness and understanding. Oftentimes feeling helpless engenders one to inflict control on another, and assert oneself, all to avoid feeling helpless. However, this action will oftentimes lead to the building of resentment, that in the long term, erodes any trust or willingness to connect with the other person. It is through taking responsibility of one’s words and actions in our life experiences, which determines the growth and maturation of a solid relationship. So stop with the blaming, and take a look at how you participated in creating either a harmonious connection, or a highly charged and explosive situation, from which one has to back pedal in order to preserve this connection.

Allow your body and conscience to be your guide in helping you navigate through conflicts that arise, either by you being the instigator, or the recipient. By tuning into your body, connecting with your feelings, and paying attention to bodily symptoms that arise, will help to establish a greater confidence in how you handle and deal with current or future conflicts. Become pro-active and start observing how you behave when you are challenged by another person, or perceive to be hurt or shamed. Your friend, loved one, or peer will thank you, as well as you will thank yourself in the long run for taking responsibility and bringing balance to your life!

Sleeping Peacefully

images There has been a lot of research done on the sleep problems that have been plaguing many people in this country.   Chronic sleep deprivation has been shown to significantly affect one’s health, performance, safety, and financial well-being. A lack of sleep, especially the quality of sleep, can lead to many things such as increased risk of heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes, metabolic syndrome, and cancer. It also affects one’s immune system, leading to increased incidences of colds and illnesses. Obesity has been linked to a lack of sleep, and when one diets while physically tired, it’s been shown that your body is burning off muscle, not the fat you want to lose.

Lack of sleep alters hormone levels associated with appetite, and affects one’s mental and emotional health. Learning and memory consolidation research shows that a good night’s sleep after learning something will help you better retain the information. Research also showed that driving while exhausted is nearly as dangerous as driving drunk.  The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) estimates conservatively that each year drowsy driving is responsible for at least 100,000 automobile crashes, 71,000 injuries, and 1,550 fatalities.

Why is it so hard for us to get restful sleep? Have you noticed that as the years go by, even though you may get seven or eight hours of sleep, you still wake up exhausted? There are a variety of factors that affect our ability to get a restful night’s sleep, from light emitted from our electrical hand-held devices, to worries about work projects or deadlines. The underlying cause is stress.   Stress impacts us more than we realize and whenever there is anything unresolved mentally or emotionally, it prevents our parasympathetic nervous system from activating, which is responsible for cellular and body repair. Worries about a family member or disagreements among siblings, a parent, or a significant other impact us negatively as well.

Our mind, expectations of how life ought to be, and our need to make sure that everything will be alright creates a low grade disturbance that keeps us in sympathetic mode, which is the fight or flight response. Our bodies stay activated and remain on yellow alert even though our eyes are closed. Can you relate to times in your life, where it was hard to get relaxed and drift off to sleep, because your mind was so active? Have you ever found yourself unsettled and restless, tossing and turning in bed because of having to make a decision or deal with an uncomfortable issue? Many times we will either put all of our energies into work, or exercise excessively, to the point of exhaustion, in order for us to crash and go to sleep.

Being able to sleep peacefully starts from dealing with our daily stresses and addressing any past or current issues that bother us. Learn to acknowledge this stress and accept that by dealing with these stresses we can establish a new way to experience our lives. Make it a point to resolve any matter that creates a mental or emotional disturbance inside. The more harmonious our minds and feelings are, the more peace and ease we experience in our bodies. A settled mind will lead to a settled body.

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One simple exercise that can help prepare you for sleep is to place your hands on a part of your body that feels comfortable. Take eight to ten breaths into your hands staying focused on how your breath feels coming into your body and exiting your body.   Be really present in the moment and with your body, and slowly but surely you will find yourself starting to be more at ease and drifting off to sleep. The power of being present with your body and in the moment insures that your mind does not get trapped in the past or projecting into the future. Hence, by staying in the “Now”, present moment is one of the secrets that help you to achieve peaceful and restful sleep.

Weighing Issues

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What does being overweight represent? Or one’s inability to keep the perfect waistline or figure? For many it has become an obsession to stay in shape, but obesity is on the rise, and many things are to blame, from bad diets, fast foods, cravings, lack of self-control, and many other reasons. What are your reasons?

We can blame the frantic pace of life and not enough time to prepare a proper meal, but beyond all that, excess weight serves as a perfect strategy for a person to protect oneself. Biologically our bodies were designed to store any extra food as fat, in order for our bodies to have a reserve when we could not find food to eat. Now many of us live in a society where food is abundant and there is not a lack of food, but rather excess. So why do most diets fail, and even exercising all the time, not keep the weight off?

This is where each individual’s body has different reasons for holding onto excess weight. One reason is weight insulates us from any uncomfortable energies, emotions, or situations that we have to face on a day-to-day basis. It could be an uncomfortable work situation, a difficult relationship or family relations, and just being unhappy with our life’s circumstances. What I have seen over the past 15 years is that most people who tend to hold their weight are usually very sensitive and overly caring, many to their own detriment. Hence they use the weight as a way to protect and insulate themselves from all the emotional experiences they have encountered.

Many will cite that they lack self-control, give into the cravings, and eat their comfort foods. How many times have we been stressed and started to eat a bag of chips and in 10 minutes, voila, the bag is empty? Or the chips could be in the form of chocolates as most chocoholics can attest to. Many times we use comfort foods as a way to satisfy a part of ourselves that we feel is empty, but after we consume our comfort foods, why do we end up beating ourselves more than celebrating? I have discovered if you crave your comfort foods, to enjoy it as much as possible, and do your best to refrain from mentally berating yourself for having no control. By not judging your desire to eat comfort foods, you free yourself from guilt and can keep your mental state more balanced. One day, after starting to eat your comfort foods, you will find that is not what you really wanted and will stop.

Here’s where the example of Constance comes to mind. Constance discovered upon many years of trying different diets and cleanses, that the damn weight never stayed off and would exponentially compound over time. She viewed herself as being lazy, having an inferiority complex, and lacking self-discipline. However, as we worked together, Constance learned to trust herself and as she began to gain greater clarity of her life and what she truly “wanted,” one day she had an epiphany. It began when her husband was constantly calling her names and putting her down for being fat. Constance learned to value herself, and understood what her values were.  When her husband asked point blank, “How do you see yourself?” Constance felt something shift inside her being and stated, “I am the most beautiful woman and have the biggest heart of anyone I know.  I don’t deserve to get all this s#%t from you. I cannot change what you think of me and if you cannot see that, then you don’t know me, and I want to know why we are together.”
Constance shared further that self-acceptance is key when she looks in the mirror now. She has learned to know that inside, it’s still her. It’s up to her husband to see that. Constance had lost 35 pounds a long time ago, due to the urgings of her husband after the birth of their second child. Upon which other people, especially men began to notice her. Constance felt physically beautiful at the time and was flattered by all the extra attention. But the moment she did, her husband became extremely jealous and possessive. Since family and security was highest on Constance’s values, there was no way she would entertain any of the male suitors. However, once she began to put back on the weight, people stopped paying attention and her husband calmed down. Realizing this, Constance saw that keeping the weight wasn’t due to her being insecure, it was a strategy to keep her marriage, family, and security intact. Now Constance knows it is her choice to change this strategy if she wants and doesn’t need the weight to keep her husband or family intact.

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By reflecting and taking a look at how your extra weight is currently serving you, like Constance, you can discover the reason your body has created this strategy of keeping the extra curves. Begin by asking yourself,“ How do my love handles benefit me?” Is it the story I tell others, or more importantly, what do I get from being on the “heavy” side? Once you discover your answer, that’s the first step towards you shifting your weight from the plus to a more balanced state of being.

Lifting the Weight Off Your Shoulders

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Glen came in for a consult with some right shoulder pain. He was a bit shaken up when he read about what I did. Glen thought I was New Age, but I explained that I wasn’t, and that I’m here to help people connect with their own healing energy, not that I put energy into people.

After I explained more, he felt a little better, however, he was very aligned with God and Jesus Christ, and believes that God won’t let anything bad happen to him, so he isn’t afraid of anything.

The right shoulder pain happened four times in Glen’s life. The first time was five years ago. He was shaking out a heavy rug and hurt his shoulder. It was very painful, but he did physical therapy for it, and it eventually went away.

It happened again about a year ago. At that time, he went to see his friend’s shiatsu massage therapist who did some alignments and really worked on the muscle making it feel better.

The third time happened a few months later. Glen wanted to see the same shiatsu therapist, but he wasn’t available, so he saw the therapist’s father. This time it didn’t help as much, but it eventually went away again.

A week and a half ago, he was really tired and slept in an awkward position. When he woke up, he had major pain in the shoulder. He was pushing on the spot that the shiatsu therapist worked on, which helped a little, but the pain was still there.

I asked Glen, “Is there anything going on in your life? Do you have any stress?”

Glen said, “No.”

“What was going on five years ago when it first happened?”

“There was something going on that has to do with my brother but I’m not going to tell you what happened.”

“It’s okay, you don’t need to tell me the details. As long as you recognize that there was something going on. What was going on in your life during the time it came back, and the shiatsu therapist worked on it?”

“There was some stuff going on then too.”

He was starting to see the link, and asked, “Are you telling me that there’s stuff going on in our lives that are causing the pain?”

“Yes, and until you bring balance to whatever that incident was with your brother…”

He cut me off, and said, “That incident is done. I forgave him.”

“Really? Why is the same pain coming up again?”

Glen couldn’t answer. I told him, “I’m not here to fix you, I’m here to help you connect with your own body, and you’ll learn strategies to help you address whatever it is that you need to address.”

“Are you saying that you’re willing to do this and lose business?”

“I’m not going to lose business. I’d rather empower people than have them become dependent on me and have them think I’m going to fix them.”

“Okay, let’s try it.”

I learned that the reason Glen was so freaked out about New Age was because of how he was looking down on his sister.

His sister brought her son (Glen’s nephew) to a New Age healer because he had a hole in his throat area. After seeing the healer, the hole closed up and everything seemed great. The sister, her husband, and son moved to Australia, and the hole opened up again. The family panicked because there weren’t any New Age healers to turn to there.

Glen’s sister ended up bringing her son to a medical doctor who says that it was a good thing the hole opened up because there were all kinds of nasty stuff underneath that’s been spreading like a tumor. Miraculously the boy was saved by Western medicine, and this caused Glen to link New Age with evilness.

If you can relate, or have a story to share, please comment below.  Have you experienced hand pain?  What did you find it related to?  There is a benefit in expressing and exchanging our stories.  Let’s hear it!