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The Fountain of Youth

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For centuries, eternal life and preserving one’s youth has been a lifelong search for those desiring to live forever. Call it a pipe dream or a fantasy, but does a fountain of youth really exist? A magical elixir, an advanced technological discovery, or bizarrely enough, becoming a vampire, have all at times been purported as ways to achieve eternal youth. Although scientists have done extensive research in finding out the secret in unlocking the body’s ability to stay young, a way to achieve this goal has still proven illusive, which prompts the question, “Are we supposed to live forever and always keep our youthful appearance?”

What drives us, as we get older, to not want to lose our youthful looks, where we find ourselves constantly looking for youth enhancing products? Why are grey hairs considered the bane of our youth, showing that we are getting older? Is it vanity or just the perspective that we no longer will be desirable to the opposite sex, because of our aging visage? Why not take a different perspective – that the trade off of aging is gaining experience and wisdom, which is truly invaluable. Learning to accept the aging process can go a long way in helping someone accept themselves and the life they lived.

However, besides self-acceptance, another way to address the aging process is to utilize stress instead of managing stress. What I have come to understand over the past fifteen years is that stress causes one to age faster than necessary. Have you ever seen a loved one, friend, co-worker, or boss age before your eyes after they have gone through some major health crisis or intense life experience? Stress is ever present in our lives, so how do we find a way to not let it get to us and age us? There are many ways to manage stress from meditating, quieting our minds, yoga, breathing exercises, maintaining a proper diet, possessing a positive mindset, and other stress managing/reducing strategies. So how do we utilize stress?

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The first way to learn how to utilize stress is to become aware of how certain life experiences or situations impact our physiology and body. Becoming conscious of how certain life stressors are expressed in one’s body, helps determine how stress is affecting us. Gaining this self-awareness is essential, giving us the ability to then choose how we want to address the stressors that are impacting us. At the moment we feel tension building in our neck or in our low back after experiencing something challenging, we can choose to breathe into that area and/or look for the hidden positive reasons for this particular situation.

This next step in seeing how a particular situation has a positive purpose in your life can be rather difficult when you first attempt to do this.  The reason being, when you perceive something to be challenging, oftentimes you get tunnel vision, not to mention, emotionally attached to, what has happened “to” you, versus it occurring “for” your personal growth and development. Someone may create a story about what has happened “to” them, which becomes amplified by their emotions. Stories are also created for positive and happy experiences, which we all tend to hold onto, because when life circumstances are less than desirable we reflect on those “good old memories.”

What I have discovered is that whenever we choose to hold onto our old stories, whether they be good memories or bad/challenging ones, they all take energy. This energy is expressed as tight musculature, stiffness in one’s joints, and less than optimal breathing. It takes a lot of energy to hold onto memories, which prevents one from staying in the present and it ages you. The goal is to balance mentally and emotionally, your experience and the stories created, in order to free up this energy so that it can be used to heal your bodies and bring more ease into your lives. When our bodies are in a balanced and relaxed state, it engenders deeper healing and slows down the aging process leading to our very own fountain of youth.

If you can relate, or have a story to share, please comment below.  There is a benefit in expressing and exchanging our stories.  Let’s hear it!

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To Be or Not to Be

To Be or Not To Be… That is the Question

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This famous line is from a soliloquy from William Shakespeare’s play, Hamlet. Hamlet is contemplating choices of life and death due to his life circumstances. Throughout the play, Hamlet is tormented with his mind (mental chatter) and is plagued by too much thought and not taking action until the very end.

How many of you can relate to Hamlet in trying to figure out the best course of action to take in your life? How often do you find yourself with many thoughts running through your mind? Have you noticed that the more you try to think and rationalize what to do, you end up not taking any action at all? Or worse yet make a decision and choice that you later regret? This course of action is commonly known as “analysis paralysis” – thinking too much, getting stuck in our mind, and not knowing what to do.

The way to escape the labyrinth of your mind is to begin asking yourself a very simple question, “What do I want?” This is essential and necessary in order to make clear and decisive choices in how you want to live your life. This life is ours to live, so why not take action now and begin deciding how you want your life to be. If you are currently happy and satisfied with the way your life is, that is wonderful. If you feel deep down inside that you are not living the life you desire, then you can consider two ways to approach this feeling and discover what your truth is.

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The first choice is to take time and reflect on how your current life situation is serving you. There have been several times in my life where I resisted admitting to myself that my life was exactly the way I wanted it. The reason for this discontent was due to comparing my life with a fantasy where nothing was ever going to be challenging and was always nice and peachy. The fallacy in believing that life will always be happy and never sad or disappointing leads you down a road, where you will unfortunately always be searching for something more. We then begin to perceive that we are missing something, when in fact we truly are not. However, what we perceive is and becomes our manifested reality.

The second choice is to take a good, hard look at your life and current situation, and determine if you want to make a change. Whether a job, partner, certain close relationships, or a family obligation that you once enjoyed that is no longer fulfilling you; only you can decide if you need things to change. Change is a normal process of life and the more you can embrace this, acceptance isn’t far away. Sometimes you may have to examine how these past and current relationships have served you, or how you benefit from the way you behave and view life. The choice is yours to make and taking full responsibility for your actions and how you want things to be different is entirely up to you. We technically only have one life to live, so why not choose a life that you are happy and content with?

Just keep in mind that anytime we make a change, there is the universal law of cause and effect. For any action that we take, there will be an equal reaction or response to that action. Be prepared to experience some resistance to your life change, possible friction or misunderstandings that may arise with certain individuals, and even body discomforts due to your change in behavior and habits. Although change is inevitable, we all resist what we don’t know or are unfamiliar with. In those moments of resistance, take a few deep breaths in to bring you back into the present and remind yourself to stay on track with the choice you have made. Continue to trust your intuition and welcome harmony and ease back into your life.

The Essence of Be-ing

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The expression of our minds and thoughts will manifest in some form in our bodies. What I have discovered is how powerful our minds are, and yet the body is its true equal or possibly more powerful. The amazing organizing wisdom of our body and its ability to process so many different details and functions all instantaneously. For instance, we do not have to constantly think of making our heart beat and pump blood to the rest of our limbs and organs, nor do we have to consciously focus on our stomach and small/large intestines to break down and digest foods we have eaten to provide us with nutrients for our body’s sustenance. This is where our mental and emotional state can truly affect the overall functioning of our body.

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Have you ever experienced a physical pain that came from feeling emotional anguish or uncertainty? Have you ever experienced tightness or an uncomfortable gripping sensation at the pit of your stomach? Sometimes a perceived slight by a loved one can create a physical pain in some part of our body, or cause our minds to go into a frenzy, attempting to make sense of the situation.

One such charged emotional state that can affect our bodies is the act of blaming and shaming. When we blame, it creates a certain mindset and in blaming another for causing us anguish or pain, we in essence give our power away. The reason being is that we were co-creators in the interaction and shrugged off our responsibility in what took place. Work towards making it a habit to understand why you feel the need to blame another, or blame a situation, for why you felt a certain way, or the way your life is. Reflecting on how a challenging experience is just as much our responsibility as the other party’s, will help to shift one’s mindset leading to a more balanced mental and emotional state. Taking ownership and equal responsibility of the conflict, enables one to take control of the situation and see how our reactionary behavior patterns have influenced our lives and may have been the underlying reason why we have perpetuated certain experiences from past and present conflicts.

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Strive to see the conflict from different perspectives to gain a more global awareness and understanding. Oftentimes feeling helpless engenders one to inflict control on another, and assert oneself, all to avoid feeling helpless. However, this action will oftentimes lead to the building of resentment, that in the long term, erodes any trust or willingness to connect with the other person. It is through taking responsibility of one’s words and actions in our life experiences, which determines the growth and maturation of a solid relationship. So stop with the blaming, and take a look at how you participated in creating either a harmonious connection, or a highly charged and explosive situation, from which one has to back pedal in order to preserve this connection.

Allow your body and conscience to be your guide in helping you navigate through conflicts that arise, either by you being the instigator, or the recipient. By tuning into your body, connecting with your feelings, and paying attention to bodily symptoms that arise, will help to establish a greater confidence in how you handle and deal with current or future conflicts. Become pro-active and start observing how you behave when you are challenged by another person, or perceive to be hurt or shamed. Your friend, loved one, or peer will thank you, as well as you will thank yourself in the long run for taking responsibility and bringing balance to your life!

Old Patterns and Habits

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As one begins to develop a stronger mind-body connection, the next step, besides discovering how one feels and connects with their body, is to become aware of one’s behavior patterns.  Recently I have had to face a lot of my old patterns in how I operate and experience my life.  We all have our own perspectives of how we experience certain instances that will always be seen through our own unique filters.  No two people will ever see or experience a particular event the same.  Everyone’s experience is their own; due to influences of the past.  So how can we stay in the present moment and not fall back into old behavior patterns?

The first step is to become aware and recognize when you are falling back into old patterns of reacting and thoughts.  Sometimes we need others to help us to see when we become unsure and begin reacting to situations.  We all have created different strategies to deal with uncomfortable situations, people, and even ourselves.  I have discovered that one of my old patterns is to avoid uncomfortable situations.  I tend to be a people-pleaser, and will do whatever it takes to make sure everyone around me is happy in my perception.  I will even sacrifice my own happiness to insure that others, especially loved ones, are happy.  What I have come to discover is that you cannot please everyone, even if your intentions are good.  It’s the battle between what I feel is right, and wanting others to be happy in spite of my own happiness.

Before I’ve felt that if I chose my happiness over another, I was being selfish.  Listening to many personal histories over the years, I have discovered that I am not alone in feeling this way.  Many have shared that when they choose themselves first, they feel selfish and guilty about it.  I have come to the realization that until we choose ourselves first, then we can never fully love or give to another.  Loving and putting one’s “self” first, is necessary to truly love others.  Even in the Bible, Mark 12:31 states, “YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.”  By simply loving yourself, you are able to love others.  So begin immediately and choose to love yourself first, which will then allow you to give, serve, and love others.

We develop certain habits or act a certain way, because it serves us.  Good habits such as brushing our teeth, helps us to prevent dental decay and cavities.  But why do we also develop such things as bad habits?  Such considered bad habits are procrastinating, stretching the truth, avoiding confrontations, making excuses, etc.  We all have, from time to time, done those things, but why are some people more prone to acting this way?  Until one can be brutally honest with themselves, and take a look at how a particular behavior is benefiting them, they will keep reenacting the same behavior until they choose that it no longer serves them in a positive way.  Once a person knows their truth, sees how they want to experience their life, and accepts themselves fully and unconditionally, there is an alchemical moment when they can transform a bad habit into a different form.

However, know that it takes time, patience, dedication, and determination to address and eventually change old patterns or habits.  Reason being is that all behaviors were created by you to deal with certain situations in your life.  Change takes time and doesn’t happen overnight.  Learn to be more gentle with yourself, because there are going to be moments when you will go back into your patterns and repeat behaviors.  When you do it’s because you didn’t stay consciously present and allowed yourself to enter autopilot mode, not making a conscious choice with your actions.  Take this moment to choose to be present and take tiny steps towards freeing yourself from those old, crusty habits.

If you can relate, or have a story to share, please comment below.  There is a benefit in expressing and exchanging our stories.  Let’s hear it!

Lifting the Weight Off Your Shoulders

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Glen came in for a consult with some right shoulder pain. He was a bit shaken up when he read about what I did. Glen thought I was New Age, but I explained that I wasn’t, and that I’m here to help people connect with their own healing energy, not that I put energy into people.

After I explained more, he felt a little better, however, he was very aligned with God and Jesus Christ, and believes that God won’t let anything bad happen to him, so he isn’t afraid of anything.

The right shoulder pain happened four times in Glen’s life. The first time was five years ago. He was shaking out a heavy rug and hurt his shoulder. It was very painful, but he did physical therapy for it, and it eventually went away.

It happened again about a year ago. At that time, he went to see his friend’s shiatsu massage therapist who did some alignments and really worked on the muscle making it feel better.

The third time happened a few months later. Glen wanted to see the same shiatsu therapist, but he wasn’t available, so he saw the therapist’s father. This time it didn’t help as much, but it eventually went away again.

A week and a half ago, he was really tired and slept in an awkward position. When he woke up, he had major pain in the shoulder. He was pushing on the spot that the shiatsu therapist worked on, which helped a little, but the pain was still there.

I asked Glen, “Is there anything going on in your life? Do you have any stress?”

Glen said, “No.”

“What was going on five years ago when it first happened?”

“There was something going on that has to do with my brother but I’m not going to tell you what happened.”

“It’s okay, you don’t need to tell me the details. As long as you recognize that there was something going on. What was going on in your life during the time it came back, and the shiatsu therapist worked on it?”

“There was some stuff going on then too.”

He was starting to see the link, and asked, “Are you telling me that there’s stuff going on in our lives that are causing the pain?”

“Yes, and until you bring balance to whatever that incident was with your brother…”

He cut me off, and said, “That incident is done. I forgave him.”

“Really? Why is the same pain coming up again?”

Glen couldn’t answer. I told him, “I’m not here to fix you, I’m here to help you connect with your own body, and you’ll learn strategies to help you address whatever it is that you need to address.”

“Are you saying that you’re willing to do this and lose business?”

“I’m not going to lose business. I’d rather empower people than have them become dependent on me and have them think I’m going to fix them.”

“Okay, let’s try it.”

I learned that the reason Glen was so freaked out about New Age was because of how he was looking down on his sister.

His sister brought her son (Glen’s nephew) to a New Age healer because he had a hole in his throat area. After seeing the healer, the hole closed up and everything seemed great. The sister, her husband, and son moved to Australia, and the hole opened up again. The family panicked because there weren’t any New Age healers to turn to there.

Glen’s sister ended up bringing her son to a medical doctor who says that it was a good thing the hole opened up because there were all kinds of nasty stuff underneath that’s been spreading like a tumor. Miraculously the boy was saved by Western medicine, and this caused Glen to link New Age with evilness.

If you can relate, or have a story to share, please comment below.  Have you experienced hand pain?  What did you find it related to?  There is a benefit in expressing and exchanging our stories.  Let’s hear it!

Bending to Others

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Bridget has been under care for eight weeks had some huge breakthroughs. She’s done a lot of spiritual, mental, and mind-over-matter work. She realized that although her goal was the body-mind-spirit connection, the last thing she wanted to deal with was her body because she didn’t like her body when she was younger. As she got older, her body seemed even uglier in her mind, because she became very gangly and tall, and just felt awkward in her own body.

In the past year and a half, Bridget’s body has been giving her so much trouble that that’s all she was focusing on. She came in to the office with major scoliosis, but as she’s been getting adjusted, she’s been becoming more upright.

Before getting under care, Bridget was never hungry. Now, she has a big appetite, has been craving more nutritious foods, has more energy, and she’s been cleaning. In the past, she would start cleaning, but because of all the pain, she would have to stop before she was done. Now, she can clean without pain and take breaks intentionally.

She’s also become aware when old patterns come up, and realizes when she makes a mistake, she gets very obsessive over it. She starts to question what she could’ve done, to the point that it can wipe out her whole day.

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Bridget was judging how she gets obsessed over making mistakes. She realized when she was younger, she would get scolded if she made a mistake. Her parents would tell her that she can’t do this or can’t do that, and if she did, she would be punished. She carried it with her, her whole life, and it comes out whenever she makes mistakes.

Because she doesn’t want to make mistakes, she always thinks ahead, especially when she was working for two high-powered bosses. We worked on things so she could see how it’s actually been serving her in a positive way, so that she could now embrace it.

She was also judging all the things she did things mentally, emotionally, and spiritually in the past. She was beating herself up, thinking she should’ve started working on her body first. I explained that if she didn’t work on all that other stuff first, when things started coming up with her body, she wouldn’t have the strength and ability to navigate and recognize it. Bridget is in her 60s, and to make a change at that age is very cool.

Everything happens for a reason and is perfect exactly how it is. As soon as Bridget can accept that, a big weight will lift off her.

If you can relate, or have a story to share, please comment below.  Have you experienced hand pain?  What did you find it related to?  There is a benefit in expressing and exchanging our stories.  Let’s hear it!

An Inconvenient Cough

2065679About eight years ago, Jeff came in with two typed pages of all the traumas he experienced.  He was a physical therapist, and once when a patient was falling down, they grabbed and yanked his shoulder while his back was turned.  It totally tweaked his body and he’s been in pain ever since.

Jeff has been going to a chiropractor every other day for a long time, and was using magnets all over his body for the pain.  When he started seeing me, he said, “I know you don’t crack the spine, but if I tell you I need it, you have to do it for me.”

I told him, “No, I won’t.”

He was upset about it, but knew I was still helping him out.  Months later, Jeff asked to crack his spine again, and I turned him down again.  He was an intense person, but had a very big heart, and went through so much transformation.  Since he started getting adjusted, I never had to crack his spine, and he let go of a lot, causing him to cough all the time during adjustments.

People hated being adjusted at the same time as Jeff because they were afraid of catching a cold.  Every time Jeff would come to get adjusted, he would cough a lot.  There was another woman who was scheduled at the same time, and she asked the office manager when Jeff would be coming again because she wanted to be scheduled after he was done.

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The office manager scheduled this woman later, but it just happened that Jeff called the next time to say he was running late because of work.  The other woman comes in, and ends up getting adjusted with Jeff and his coughing again.

After the adjustment the woman complains to the office manager that she specifically asked for a later time than Jeff.  The office manager apologizes and explains why they were put together again.

The woman then schedules her next appointment earlier than Jeff.  When that day comes around, he gets off from work early and asks if he can come in since he’s already in the area.  There was space in the schedule, and Jeff came in, just to be placed right next to the other woman who was trying so hard to avoid him.

It was crazy and hilarious.  I finally had to explain to the other woman that when Jeff coughs, it’s not because he has a cold, it’s just the body’s way of clearing out all the “old stuff”.  Jeff had so much old stuff to clear out, with so many different traumas throughout his life.

Jeff was a trooper and worked through a lot.  He ended up being a good teacher for me because he taught me how not to cave in and crack someone’s spine just because they insist.